Jane Isay Knihy

A compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and for those who discover what has long been hidden. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage, her husband revealed he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of deception can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Though secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships, Isay shows how people can survive even the most disturbing revelations.

The book explores the transformative role of grandparents, highlighting how they can embrace a second chance to nurture and connect with their grandchildren. Family relationships expert Jane Isay emphasizes the joy of creating lasting memories and making up for past parenting challenges. Through engaging insights, it illustrates how these relationships can enrich both generations, fostering deeper bonds and shared experiences.

Exploring the complex dynamics of sibling relationships, the book delves into the emotional spectrum of love, conflict, and reconciliation. Jane Isay challenges the myth that harmonious sibling bonds exclude negative feelings, revealing through numerous interviews that such complexities are natural. The stories highlight how adult siblings navigate past grievances and differing life paths, ultimately celebrating the enduring connections that can thrive despite challenges. This insightful work offers a compassionate look at the transformative potential of sibling ties.

Navigating the complexities of adult relationships between parents and their children becomes challenging as independence grows. Renowned editor Jane Isay offers practical wisdom and insights for both parents and their adult children, addressing the emotional distance that can arise when children seek autonomy. This guide provides valuable advice on maintaining close connections while respecting individual growth, making it a thoughtful resource for families striving to strengthen their bonds during this transitional phase.