John Gottman Knihy

„Sedm principů spokojeného manželství“ představuje vrchol celoživotního díla amerického psychologa Johna Gottmana, jednoho z nejvlivnějších odborníků na manželství a rodičovství. Díky více než dvacetiletému výzkumu nabízí Gottman hluboký vhled do dynamiky partnerských vztahů. Autor zahájil svůj výzkum v roce 1992 se 700 novomanželskými páry, které si nahrávaly 15minutové rozhovory. Analýzou těchto záznamů předpověděl, zda páry vydrží dalších deset let, s úspěšností 94 %. Klíčovým faktorem pro úspěch vztahu se ukázal být poměr pozitivních a negativních interakcí, přičemž páry, které zůstaly spolu, měly pětkrát více pozitivních interakcí než negativních. Gottman se zaměřuje na mýty o komunikaci a identifikuje destruktivní vzorce, které mohou vést k rozchodu. Kniha obsahuje profily párů, které se dokázaly zachránit, a také příběhy těch, kteří proplouvají životem společně. Čtenáři najdou dotazníky a cvičení, které pomohou identifikovat problémy ve vztahu a zaměřit se na jejich řešení. První vydání knihy vyšlo v roce 1999 a stalo se bestsellerem, přičemž aktualizované vydání z roku 2015 přináší nejnovější výzkumy.

Čím to je, že některé páry spolu vydrží šťastně až do smrti, zatímco jiné se rozejdou? Je to náhoda? Štěstí? Nebo snad existuje ověřený vzorec, který vám pomůže vztah udržet?Uznávaní vztahoví terapeuti John a Julie Gottmanovi zasvětili svůj profesní život právě těmto otázkám. Svou celoživotní práci přetavili do sedmidenního akčního plánu plného jednoduchých a okamžitě aplikovatelných kroků s jediným cílem – zlepšit vaše soužití. Ať už potřebujete řešit náhlou partnerskou krizi, oživit desítky let trvající manželství nebo jen podpořit nový vztah. >>V knize se mimo jiné dozvíte:* Vědecký vzorec pro dlouhodobý vztah existuje a funguje spolehlivě.* Šťastné páry se nehádají méně než ostatní – hádají se lépe.* Základem vztahu je správně pojmenovat, co zrovna potřebujeme.* Klíčem k úspěchu nejsou velká gesta či honosné dary, ale každodenní maličkosti.* Jak přes všechny povinnosti neztratit spojení s tím druhým. Vitamín L je praktickým receptem na lásku, který vám pomůže zaměřit se na to nejpodstatnější. Díky němu zjistíte, že už pár malých návyků může váš vztah zásadně změnit k lepšímu.

Grounded in decades of research involving over three thousand couples, the book emphasizes that strong relationships are built on small, everyday interactions. It presents a seven-day action plan designed to enhance connection and communication by focusing on elements such as body language, conversation styles, and physiological responses. This practical guide aims to provide actionable insights to help couples deepen their bond and improve their emotional well-being.

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings, they have now created an easy series of eight dates - spanning commitment; trust; conflict; intimacy; sex; fun; work; money; and family values - that will lead to a happier, lasting love life. Eight Dates draws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Dates is an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling.

From the country's leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world's leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: You know that you need to "treat the relationship," but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as "a relationship"? ; How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you've failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? ; Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? ; What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? ; How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book. (Publisher)

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

While national awareness of the issue of battering has increased in recent years, certain myths regarding abusive relationships still endure, including the idea that all batterers are alike. After their decade of research with more than 200 couples, the authors conclude that not all batterers are alike, nor is the progression of their violence always predictable. But they have found that batterers tend to fall into one of two categories, which they call "Pit Bulls" and "Cobras." Pit Bulls, men whose emotions quickly boil over, are driven by deep insecurity and an unhealthy dependence on the mates whom they abuse. Cobras, on the other hand, are cool and methodical as they inflict pain and humiliation on their spouses or lovers. Cobras have often been physically or sexually abused themselves, frequently in childhood, and tend to see violence as an unavoidable part of life. Knowing which type a batterer is can be crucial to gauging whether an abusive relationship is salvageable (Pit Bulls can sometimes be helped through therapy) or whether the situation is beyond repair. Using the stories of several couples in their study, Jacobson and Gottman look at the dynamics of abusive relationships, refuting prevalent myths. Never underestimating the inherent risk or danger involved, the authors discuss how women in their study group prepared themselves to leave an abusive relationship, where a battered woman can get help, and how she can keep herself safe

Grounded in two decades of research, this book offers practical tools for evaluating and enhancing long-term relationships. Readers will discover their marital strengths and weaknesses, along with actionable strategies to improve their partnership. The author highlights common detrimental patterns that can lead to divorce, providing insights to help couples avoid these pitfalls. With a focus on proven methods, the book serves as a comprehensive guide for couples seeking to strengthen their bond and ensure lasting happiness.