Jednou z příčin frustrace dnešních rodičů je, že když byli dětmi, udělali vždy, co jim dospělí řekli. Tak tomu prostě u dětí bylo. Nyní se dostali do konfliktů s dětmi, pro které to není samozřejmostí. Jen málo věcí popuzuje rodiče víc než neustálé diskutování ze strany dětí. Výroky „a musím?“ a „já nechci!“, které dělají z rodinného života bitevní pole, zná každý rodič.
Neschopnost dosáhnout vytoužené pozornosti v lidech zanechává pocit bezmocnosti a tento pocit se ještě umocňuje životem ve světě charakterizovaném ekonomickým úpadkem, bídou, AIDS, kriminalitou, narušeným životním prostředím a hloupostí byrokratického aparátu. Není tedy nic překvapivého, když ztratíme víru v to, že my sami bychom mohli něco změnit. Znechucení ze společnosti a osobní zklamání odčerpávají naši energii a připravují nás o odvahu. Připadáme si využívaní a zrazení, a pak je přirozené obrátit svůj střádaný hněv navenek a své pochopení směrem dovnitř. Tato kniha je pozváním k zamyšlení nad způsoby, jakými spolu hovoříme a jeden druhému nasloucháme: proč má v našem životě naslouchání tak ohromnou moc, jak můžeme pozorně naslouchat s dlouhodobějším ponořením do zkušenosti toho druhého a jak zabránit tomu, aby bylo dobré naslouchání narušeno špatnými návyky. Na řadě zahraničních univerzit a seminářů je tato publikace považována za základní učebnici komunikace. Předmluvu k českému vydání napsal Prof. PhDr. Jaro Křivohlavý, CSc, přední český odborník na komunikaci.
The family can be a source of both immense happiness and deep disappointment. In his culminating work, renowned family therapist Salvador Minuchin shares how his personal experiences shaped his understanding of family dynamics. As the grandson of Russian Jewish emigrants in Argentina, Minuchin experienced a secure, close-knit family amid a society marked by anti-Semitism and dictatorship. His formative experiences—anti-Peronist activism, service in the Israeli army, and work with displaced Holocaust children and marginalized youth—were pivotal in his development as a theorist and clinician. While many see chaos, Minuchin identifies structure in family interactions, revealing how members engage in shadow dancing within invisible boundaries. Through dramatic stories of families seeking help, he uncovers the hidden rules that confine members to stifling roles. His confrontational yet compassionate therapeutic style addresses self-defeating patterns that lead to marital conflict, parenting challenges, and crises at various life stages. Each therapeutic encounter showcases a dialogue between Minuchin's insights and families grappling with pain yet resistant to change. His innovative solutions to common family issues illuminate the hidden strengths within families, offering inspiration and hope.
In beautiful yet eerily disturbing color photographs, the "Indiana Jones" of photography records the struggle for survival of the gorillas of the Virunga Mountains, the land they inhabit, and the Rwandan people whose destiny they share.
Whether arguing takes the form of whining, heel-dragging, or embarrassing tantrums, what's a beleaguered parent to do? Trusted family therapist and bestselling author Dr. Michael P. Nichols has an answer that might surprise you. Using the simple, easy-to-follow, yet remarkably effective approach he's developed over 30 years of working with parents and children, you can learn to put an end to arguments by refusing to argue back. It's called responsive listening, and it means separating decision making from hearing what your children have to say. In five clear-cut steps, Dr. Nichols shows how you can stick to your guns about extra ice cream, coed sleepovers, or skating without a helmet without shooting down the ideas and feelings behind the demands. With the techniques of responsive listening, you can stop arguments in their tracks, get kids to open up, and demonstrate that you value their point of view - without getting caught up in a power struggle. Testing the limits is a natural part of growing up - but patenting dosen't have to be a battle-ground. You can cut down on arguments with your kids and the damage they do. You can gain more authority as a parent and build your children's trust and respect at the same time. This indispensable book shows how.
Man beholds in the animal a part of himself and a proxy in his relation to the world; his art portrays them alternately as true friends, tools, dignified beings and monstrous beasts. There are innumerable occasions to photograph animals, for research and as trophies, to document the creatures one has grown fond of or has killed, to arouse emotions or to create a work of art. The Photographed Animal presents images from the medium's beginnings up to the present in a depth and variety never seen in one place before, each reflecting the circumstances in which it was made, whether a nineteenth century big-game hunt or a twenty-first century cat food commercial. This unique selection brings together work from the daguerreotype to modern publicity photographs, from amateur snapshots to the work of celebrated photographers including William Eggleston, Elliot Erwitt, Garry Winogrand and many others.
