A radically inclusive, sex-positive guide to navigating libido differences in relationships, authored by two certified sex therapists. This essential book invites readers of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures to shed the shame and misinformation surrounding sex. Desire differences are a common relationship issue, yet finding help can be challenging with fewer than 1,100 certified sex therapists in the U.S. Breaking the mold of the typical sex self-help genre, which often focuses solely on cisgender women, this guide offers expert insights on embracing a broader definition of sex, understanding factors that impact libido, and managing anxiety—one of the biggest libido killers. It addresses structural oppressions like cisnormativity and heteronormativity that influence our sexual experiences. Rejecting the narrow “staircase” model of sex, the book integrates evidence-based relationship therapy techniques to enhance communication around intimacy. Readers will find numerous techniques, exercises, checklists, and journal prompts to use at their own pace, including mindfulness and body mapping. Whatever your identity or reasons for exploring this topic, this guide aims to help you achieve your personal sexual health goals.
Lauren Fogel Mersy Knihy
